ANGER invites DANGER

Hi my dear,
Greetings.

Through my following WhatsApp post, I called for answers to certain questions.

AAZKI 🔉🔊 AAWAAZ
Chennai :: 28.10.2020

When we are very angry......
1. We beat our children, if they are small kids;
2. We scold, family members and/or other persons whoever are inferior to us;
3. We shout/speak in serious tone, with equals/colleagues.
4. Through body language we behave rudely with superiors. 

As a result of the above, our relationships get affected. 

Actually,,,, 
why do we get angry?
And
How handle our anger?

Following are my answers.

1. Why do we get angry?

When we feel or imagine "occurrences of loss", we get angry.


"Anger" is a strong feeling of displeasure expressed through words and actions.

2. How to handle Anger?
Simply by addition of "D", anger becomes danger. 
It means ANGER invites DANGER situations, invariably.

So We have to realize that ............... 
- by being "angry", nothing positive can be achieved.
- Anger leads to damage of the relationships.
- relationships are more important than the actual "loss". 
- loss can be covered in due course of time, but not the relationships.
- lack of "competence" is the reason for not getting the expected results.
- it is our responsibility to develop competence in others, before expecting it from them.

As rightly responded in Whatsapp by my ex-colleague, Mr. Ramakrishnama Naidu.......
"If it is my fault, I have no right to show my anger. 
And 
if it is others' fault, I am not supposed to get angry as anger punishes me rather than other."

In view of the above, ANGER can be effectively handled, 
- by developing "understanding" in our own-self.
- by "explaining till understood", to others.

What do you say, my dear??

Regards,
Naseer.
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Comments

Vareesha anjum said…
That was brilliant explanation Mamaji
10/29/2020
Helping Hands Naseer said…
Thanks for your appreciation, dear Anjum ji.
10/29/2020
Ramakrishnarao Savaram said…
When the kids fell down / broke some items / about to put their hands in fire / electrical plugs etc. in anzity we shout / sometimes beat them. Not with bad intension, misunderstanding their competence and failure to guide them properly with polite manner. The other three types also our intension is good but unable to understand the other person's competence. Of course we also lack of our competence to guide them politely, we shout at them and loose relationships. Stop / analyse / observe / take decision when we're cool. Requires patience / cool mind which we've to practice for a long time, to right understanding of self and relationships.
10/29/2020
Helping Hands Naseer said…
Good analysis, my dear Brother.

Thank you. 🙏
10/29/2020
Unknown said…
Good reply sir
12/11/2020
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